93.2 Meetups

Starmourn is a multiplayer game where interaction with other players is fundamental to the overall experience. Many players come to know other players as the people behind the characters and not only the characters they play. Many come to communicate with them outside of Starmourn: through instant messengers, through email, through the forums, et cetera. And some arrange group meetups!

As with anyone you come to know via the medium of the internet, we urge you to take all precautions if you intend to meet another player in person: meet in a public place; have access to your own transportation and ideally, a phone; let a friend or relative know where you will be, for how long, and with whom. Whenever possible, take a friend with you, or meet in a group situation. Don't travel to stay alone with someone you have never met before. While what happens between players outside of Starmourn is outside of our purview, we wish for you to make your decisions wisely and safely.

It's easy to feel like you know someone well online after a prolonged period of online contact, despite having never met in person. Sometimes, it feels like you know them better because you met them online: that you are getting to know them based on their true personality and not superficialities. There may be some truth to this, but be aware that someone talking to you online has a lot more control over how they present themselves to you than they would in person, and you are not getting the full story. Maybe it's something relatively innocent; for example, they may simply seem more confident and talkative online than they are initially in person. But perhaps they are deceiving you about something more serious.

We're not telling you to be paranoid. Many people form great friendships and relationships in person with people they have met online; we know of several married couples who initially met through Iron Realms games. But if you err, please err on the side of caution.